I will talk about any parent that uses their child as currency. There are two quotes by our progenitor that I find invaluable.

One is Absolute power corrupts absolutely. Which is a problem. If one does not have power. It means two things. That when you earn absolute, unquestionable power, you are blind to the needs of others. And the other, that when absolute power is obtained those without power will be made to stay in their place.

You were foolish out there. You acted as if you belonged, but there was no benefit to you, your family, or anyone. You welcomed them taking advantage of you and all of your own kind.